Personal Sexual Taste as Relates to Your View of QS
Posted: Sat Jan 25, 2014 6:28 am
I've been wanting to ask this for years now but for some reason I've avoided it. Not sure why.
Discussion in another topic made me decide to proceed. Since I'm going to ask it of others I should begin with myself. Follow along for a bit...
I'm a 50 year old heterosexual white male that I've always supposed might be at least mildly "over sexed" if there really is such a thing. Over the years I've come to believe that my sexual tastes, habits, desires, and the partner I've spent the most time having sex with for the last 24 years, are related deeply to how my fetish relates to quicksand. I don't really take an interest in passively receiving sexual gratification from a woman. She's wasting her time trying to get on top or expecting me to just lie there and let her do things like the guys in porn movies do. That hits me as absolutely uninteresting. It's almost as if I believe that sex has to be "inflicted" on my partner. I decide when and where and how and I'm on top and in charge of the entire thing. Foreplay is generally the time it takes to turn the lights off or get the buttons undone. Back in earlier years before offspring were constantly underfoot there was often water involved either in the pool, tub, shower, lake, etc. Breath holding comes into play with underwater activity. My wife is a lanky, leggy, brunette, fitness instructor who resembles the center of most of my fantasies. (Cross Ellie Mae Clampett with Xena?) She is not at all what I would call submissive and it's not unusual for sex to resemble a wrestling match and cause property damage on occasion. For a long time our favorite practice involved both of us coming in sweaty and I throw her over my shoulder and run off to the shower.
I realize this might be getting into too much information but I think it says a lot about the way I look at quicksand. Quicksand has always for some reason meant sex to me. The first time I ever willingly put a girl in my fantasies was in third grade and she was also a tall brunette. (As was my mother but let's not go there) I don't care for lingering stuck scenes I just like to get to the point. (Lack of foreplay) I like erotic scenes most of the time and nudity is my favorite wardrobe. (I've preferred all my sex partners to wear nothing over the years as well. ) I like sex to be warm and wet and extremely physical and exhausting. (Sounds like quicksand to me) I like to completely envelop my partner and to be in control of her. (Get the metaphor here?) Dave has correctly pointed out to me in the past that my interest in a scene really doesn't begin until a lady is at least waist deep and the interest increases from there. Once the victim is up to her chin and in the control of the quicksand I don't mind if it takes a long time after that for her to go under. But she better go under and that burst of bubbles or screaming has to stand for orgasm. (More sexual metaphor)
So now we get to the questions that remain unanswered.
Is it like this for others? Can anyone else connect their sex life to their qs fetish interest?
Does my sexual behavior inform my fetish or the other way around? Understanding this might be important.
Discussion in another topic made me decide to proceed. Since I'm going to ask it of others I should begin with myself. Follow along for a bit...
I'm a 50 year old heterosexual white male that I've always supposed might be at least mildly "over sexed" if there really is such a thing. Over the years I've come to believe that my sexual tastes, habits, desires, and the partner I've spent the most time having sex with for the last 24 years, are related deeply to how my fetish relates to quicksand. I don't really take an interest in passively receiving sexual gratification from a woman. She's wasting her time trying to get on top or expecting me to just lie there and let her do things like the guys in porn movies do. That hits me as absolutely uninteresting. It's almost as if I believe that sex has to be "inflicted" on my partner. I decide when and where and how and I'm on top and in charge of the entire thing. Foreplay is generally the time it takes to turn the lights off or get the buttons undone. Back in earlier years before offspring were constantly underfoot there was often water involved either in the pool, tub, shower, lake, etc. Breath holding comes into play with underwater activity. My wife is a lanky, leggy, brunette, fitness instructor who resembles the center of most of my fantasies. (Cross Ellie Mae Clampett with Xena?) She is not at all what I would call submissive and it's not unusual for sex to resemble a wrestling match and cause property damage on occasion. For a long time our favorite practice involved both of us coming in sweaty and I throw her over my shoulder and run off to the shower.
I realize this might be getting into too much information but I think it says a lot about the way I look at quicksand. Quicksand has always for some reason meant sex to me. The first time I ever willingly put a girl in my fantasies was in third grade and she was also a tall brunette. (As was my mother but let's not go there) I don't care for lingering stuck scenes I just like to get to the point. (Lack of foreplay) I like erotic scenes most of the time and nudity is my favorite wardrobe. (I've preferred all my sex partners to wear nothing over the years as well. ) I like sex to be warm and wet and extremely physical and exhausting. (Sounds like quicksand to me) I like to completely envelop my partner and to be in control of her. (Get the metaphor here?) Dave has correctly pointed out to me in the past that my interest in a scene really doesn't begin until a lady is at least waist deep and the interest increases from there. Once the victim is up to her chin and in the control of the quicksand I don't mind if it takes a long time after that for her to go under. But she better go under and that burst of bubbles or screaming has to stand for orgasm. (More sexual metaphor)
So now we get to the questions that remain unanswered.
Is it like this for others? Can anyone else connect their sex life to their qs fetish interest?
Does my sexual behavior inform my fetish or the other way around? Understanding this might be important.