Anyone else know about your quicksand fetish?

[quicksand_for_life]

@YerK - Yeah tell me about it! I guess we all tend to have a dirty mind sometimes.

@Conspiracy101 - Yeah there will be times when I'm not specific enough and it tends to confuse people a lot. I have a mental disability so it can be pretty hard for me to explain things as well as being specific. Hopefully this was good enough for me to explain.

[Conspiracy101]

@YerK - Yeah tell me about it! I guess we all tend to have a dirty mind sometimes.

@Conspiracy101 - Yeah there will be times when I'm not specific enough and it tends to confuse people a lot. I have a mental disability so it can be pretty hard for me to explain things as well as being specific. Hopefully this was good enough for me to explain.

You explained yourself just fine and I hope I didnt insult you. I definitely didn't try to make fun of your disability.

[quicksand_for_life]

@YerK - Yeah tell me about it! I guess we all tend to have a dirty mind sometimes.

@Conspiracy101 - Yeah there will be times when I'm not specific enough and it tends to confuse people a lot. I have a mental disability so it can be pretty hard for me to explain things as well as being specific. Hopefully this was good enough for me to explain.

You explained yourself just fine and I hope I didnt insult you. I definitely didn't try to make fun of your disability.

I know you weren't making fun of my disability I was just saying to everyone here that if I don't make sense in anything then they can let me know because sometimes I don't explain some things correctly.

[kwiksand1]

My wife of almost 16 years knows, and nobody else.

I told her about my quicksand lust a few months before we married. At first, she was shocked and a little weirded out... nothing bad, just not really understanding why or how quicksand turned me on so much. She agreed to watch one of my favorite quicksand scenes with me one night as I was giving her a foot massage (I have a major foot fetish, too, and my wife certainly doesn't mind the foot rubs!).

As we watch The Beastmaster scene (over and over) with her feet in my hands, in my lap, etc., she noticed my much elevated level of excitement and the speed in which it peaked.... we laughed about it that night when it was over, and that laid the groundwork for quicksand to be a regular thing in our sexual relationship.

Over the years, I have been fortunate enough to have her involved with many of my quicksand fantasies....she has no interest in sinking herself, which is fine by me as I like to do the sinking while she gives me "encouragement". Her encouragement might be in the form of a dirty text as I am out for a sink on my kayak, a picture of her feet to help me along while enjoying a sink, or a movie or video clip to watch as I enjoy some time at her feet.

Still hoping to get her out on the kayak with me one day so I can do a sink while she offers me her feet from within the kayak.... I imagine being sunk to my shoulders and her feet covering my face - just would be amazing!!

[Raptor90]

A few know of my WAM interest, they'll poke fun at it. It can be a tad annoying especially when they have their own fetishes. No wonder I'm not too open about this sorta thing.

[Jumpoff_Joe]

Well...

Since about nine days ago, I've started to be more open about it. I am blessed with having a group of friends who all have similar complexities. We are all very much on the fringes of society. I am also blessed by being in a fairly open-minded city.

That being said, I was once so afraid of my feelings about my fetish that when some mentioned quicksand in any sense I would literally run out of the room. That changed in the mid-90s when I found Mike D.'s "The Quicksand Page," and found Chuck Lang. I was shocked: for years, I thought I was the only one that was so abnormal!

I tried coming out with my fetish to a few friends: it became gossip-fodder for them and used it against me. I then took it underground, again. One friend, in particular, spread it around like weedkiller on a lawn full of dandelions. The flip side of that was that he had a history of kink, so I felt even more hurt.

More time passed. I tried mentioning it to partners, a few of the women were suprised by it and it never came up again. My last LTR ended by the lady basically saying that it was unimportant that I had fulfilling sex in our relationship -- I think she was trying to comfort me, but I felt it damn important. That relationship ended in early January.

At that time I experienced an epiphany: I figured that I could express myself creatively and use it as a means of therapy, to rid myself of this shame and guilt that I have been dragging around for at least the last 40 or so years. So, with the help and support of this community, I built the studio. Now, since I started shooting just eight days ago, I find myself able to use the word "quicksand" in common conversation -- something I was never able to do. I have also told three longtime friends about it -- even showing them the studio and photographic work. Thank you everyone for being here, and special thanks to my friend Persephone, who you will be seeing soon in to-be-released video projects.

I intend to finally become one person.

Jumpoff Joe

[Duncan Edwards]

At that time I experienced an epiphany: I figured that I could express myself creatively and use it as a means of therapy...

It was not intended as such but I did benefit from something similar when I entered the creative part. I still haven't told anyone outside our little group. Never will.

[reisen55]

My ex-wife LOVED the quicksand fetish and when we were fucking, I told her stories of sinking into the mud. THEN CAME A DIVORCE and her defense lawyer WROTE IT ALL UP IN LEGAL DETAIL and that more or less destroyed sharing it forever thereafter. I have shared it only a few times with second wife but even then whenever I go there, I am back with HER again and become disgusted. Will guarantee that reading it as a legal festish is horrible and destructive. It also guaranteed that nobody in my family could SUPPORT ME LIVE in the courtroom. I went through it all alone.

[DaegonNeo]

Just my girlfriend/fiance.

...she didn't like the idea very much, and she has a way of making me feel like I'm sniffing airplane glue or collecting hat pins...not particularly creepy or reprehensible but nothing she would ever be interested in trying out for herself, not even when I offered to hold her hand through the whole deep sinking process. It seriously bothers me that there's not really anything I can do to make her feel comfortable with my fetishes, since she has little to none of her own.

I'm just glad the rest of my relationship is rock solid.

...I went through it all alone.

Sorry to hear you've had it rough. I know everyone's got war stories, and we'll all likely be viewed with less regard than the BDSM community for a very long time. Speaking for myself, I know I appreciate getting to talk with all you guys here on QSfans.

[nachtjaeger]

That really sucks. But at least it didn't cost you a US Senate seat. When Jack Ryan was running against Barack Obama for the vacant US Senate seat from Illinois, the Chicago Tribune and WLS-TV Chicago (ABC) sued to have his sealed divorce records unsealed. They found a friendly Judge on the Los Angles Superior Court (the Ryans divorced in California) and the records, sealed to protect the interests of the Ryans' minor child, were unsealed and released publicly.
Turns out that Jack and his ex (Star Trek's Jeri Ryan, aka "Seven of Nine") went to sex clubs together, and she used that as a club to bash him over the head with during the custody battle. Of course, the way she and her lawyers told it, she didn't want to go to sex clubs- he forced her to go, and that was why she wanted a divorce. FYI his net worth at the time was in the neighborhood of $100 million dollars, so there was no incentive whatsoever to screw him over. Jeri Ryan is supposedly worth about $30 million, and she didn't make that much doing Star Trek.

My ex-wife LOVED the quicksand fetish and when we were fucking, I told her stories of sinking into the mud. THEN CAME A DIVORCE and her defense lawyer WROTE IT ALL UP IN LEGAL DETAIL and that more or less destroyed sharing it forever thereafter. I have shared it only a few times with second wife but even then whenever I go there, I am back with HER again and become disgusted. Will guarantee that reading it as a legal festish is horrible and destructive. It also guaranteed that nobody in my family could SUPPORT ME LIVE in the courtroom. I went through it all alone.