Postby Sedge » Tue Oct 09, 2018 7:11 pm
I've been thinking about this topic more lately. Here are some more "How-To" thoughts for a less risky, more conventional approach which has been mildly successful for me in the past.
When your girlfriend or wife is into you and likes you, and your relationship is healthy there is little wrong you can do. That doesn't rule out making "unforced errors" of course. This means that shared experiences together are good and build your relationship, but surprising her with what may look to her like "the snuff porn you jerk off to" may be unhelpful.
Women often look for romantic moments and activities that bond you together, things that are symbolic of romance and being together with someone who makes her feel good about herself. This isn't universal but rather "typical" of a relationship in good health.
The warm season is getting a bit late, but think of outdoorsy activities that allow for some sinking fun while in the normal range of activities. Walking along the beach is one of the best opportunities for this. Many beaches have some sort of sinky areas, especially in areas that have some water flow due to the outgoing tide or a creek that empties into the lake or ocean. Your shoes are off, toes feeling the texture of the sand, there's ample shallow water that's normal to walk in, and it's expected to get a bit of sand on your feet. Lead your walking partner into an area where the sand or silt is soft. Continue holding her hand as you walk into it. If she trusts you, this is where "spontaneity" is your friend.
Maybe she will step into some deep or slippery sand and her feet will get stuck. Offer your hand to help her pull herself out. You want her to associate this experience with trust and companionship, and fun. The quicksand trapping her feet is a minor obstacle that you both work together to overcome. This is classic relationship bonding psychology and will build her feelings for you AND anchor her trust in you with rescuing her from "quicksand."
Think of all the Hollywood movies where the romantic leads stand in the rain kissing passionately. Well, rain is actually uncomfortable and wet to stand in, but in the movies the feeling of mutual bonding and trust in the passionate kiss is enough to shield the pair from their cold, wet surroundings. The fantasy for the viewer is that of feeling protected and bonded.
Depending on how playful she is, fool around with sinking a little deeper. If not just take in the moment. Lead her in closer to you as you would for an affectionate kiss. You will both be standing there, maybe ankle deep in silt as she experiences a romantic and sexually interesting moment. Her romantic feelings may psychologically anchor to the feeling of standing in unstable, soft, sinky silt or sand with you. If she trusts you she'll stand there with you and feel protected through your bond.
When good weather returns go back to the same place and have another romantic walk. Repeat the story, make this a familiar and romantic place that is part of your story.
The physical application of this fetish in your own relationship may never actually manifest beyond the point of making out while standing in the mud. How much more is required to meet your sexual needs? When you take her home later and have sex tonight you'll have the fresh experiences of seeing her sinking with you, her toes disappearing into the sand, and maybe even a fun rescue. And her experiences will be that you both had such a sensual and romantic day and she felt like the center of your attention, and these feelings of affection will extend to the bedroom. But maybe this will also plant the seed for more mud fun later. Maybe.
Be careful: Women think about stuff a LOT. When they see something new or unusual they think about it, they stew about it, and come to their own conclusions. If you show her quicksand porn because you think it's your time to come out about it, she will tell you "it's OK" and that it's "interesting" and then she's going to think and stew about what she just saw, a lot. She might go along because you're awesome in her eyes and pleases you. Or she might think, "uh-oh, red light. He's into snuff porn." And she is *definitely* going to ask her friends about it, because she's never heard of this before and wants to know more about it. But not from you.
The idea that your girlfriend is going to put on some lingerie and jump into quicksand for you is fantasy. There are professionals who pay women good money to do this on film to allow us to indulge in the fantasy.
However, if your girlfriend associates walking around with you in the mud as a romantic activity that you can share, you're almost as far as you're ever going to get in physically manifesting this fetish into your sexual realities. Maybe together you'll explore more, like playing in it, and then maybe role-play a "rescue." Who knows. There are exceptions. But start easy.