Quicksand Fans

Several years ago I gave up sinking for the stated reason that I hated cleanup, and it is a pain. But the real reason, and this is worth discussion, was more weird. As a male, I sank nude and used the mud for stimulation much as our friend BoggyMan rather nicely writes about. No need to go further there but one season I began to realize that I was actually having BETTER sensual experiences in the mud than I was at HOME?? And I do not have to take the mud out to dinner or movies, it is always THERE and free. That thought bothered me greatly and disburbed me no end.

Anyone else feel the same.

My take on it is that although nothing is 100% true all the time for every person, you are very likely to have hit the nail right on the head for a considerable number of quicksand folk.

When you are with another person, that other person's satisfaction (or lack of it) factors into the scene. And...well...I don't know about guys, but I can tell you that no matter what I'm doing, in mud or not, and whether it involves actual sex, or a fetish, or even just going out to eat...the first thing I think about is whether HE is having a good time. Whether I am having a good time very often gets put on the back burner.

The concerns about the other person are removed when one is alone. And...honestly? After awhile, one can get mighty spoiled by being alone.

I know that we're all socialized to think that we need to be with somebody else all the time and if we're not glued to a partner we're just not worth as much. We're also taught that any experience we have alone is somehow not as valuable as an experience that we have with somebody else.

I disagree with that...being alone is fine. Then again, were I to feel guilty about it, it would reduce the quality of my life since I would NOT stop doing it anyway.

Nessie

Reisen, I agree with you about being disturbed.

My own interest grew over time from mudplay to only grim fantasy. It concerns me that I eventually migrated to vore fantasy and honestly stopped fooling around in mud several years ago. Worse, my interest was strongest when I was involved in dissatisfying relationships and it waned when I was happily mated to someone.

However, recently my interest has returned even though I am happily involved. I'm back in the mud, but only interested in submersion because I need to feel consumed and taken. I think it does negatively affect my satisfaction from bedroom sex.

I'm relieved the weather is getting colder because it prevents me from going to the mud for a while.

In this old poll of mine at the "other quicksand forum", 67% out of a total 67 respondents said they preferred humans to mudpits when it comes to sexual outlets.

http://deepsinking.org/bb/viewtopic.php ... highlight=

Only you can decide what is most important to you, and make hard decisions about where you want to take your life. If I had a great mud pit nearby I would surely be tempted to use it all the time. Would this interfere with my personal life? Almost certainly. Thank goodness I don't have that temptation weighing on me..

This one is pretty complicated.
Can I sometimes have a truly spectacular sexual release after watching a QS video, or after a sink? Yes. Does this bother me? Sometimes.
Would I love to have my own private clay pit to "play" in? Yes. Does this bother me? Not particularly.
It would probably be different (worse) if I didn't have an accepting partner who understands the fetish, and even participates on a "shared fantasy" level. I think it would become a problem if the only way I could have sex was by thinking about quicksand, but that's not the case.

One worry is that a sexy woman sinking in quicksand could seduce me into breaking my marriage vows- but seriously, what are the odds?

Northerner wrote:In this old poll of mine at the "other quicksand forum", 67% out of a total 67 respondents said they preferred humans to mudpits when it comes to sexual outlets.

Thank you for finding that old link.

Humans or mudpits? Mudpits or humans?

I hate to say it...but...I'm the one that wrote that breakup letter to a mudpit.

Now that we're all on this forum, I'll re-post that here. It is obviously tongue-in-cheek but...I'm not so sure it's all a joke, although, given the depth of this subject, perhaps it could use a little humor.

"Dear Mudpit,

I write these sad words of parting to you, O Mudpit, drowning in a heavy mire of brokenhearted sorrow.

Once you were deep and warm. Your embrace was snug and comforting, and I felt safe and secure, wrapped lovingly in a hug which no human arms could possibly equal, for there are only two arms per human while your clay particles were dense and infinite.

But lately you have grown cold and shallow. Your mire is thin and you no longer wish to wrap yourself around me. I step into you and cannot even sink properly. You are as loose as water and your grip is weak.

Alas, we must part ways. I bid thee good-bye!

I have found a new...mudpit...whose mire cannot be so easily challenged, whose embrace is deep and affectionate, who can quench the fiery flames of my passion with equal gallons of thick and heavy...mud.

Alas, my affections have turned toward another!

I must follow my heart. And so, I bid thee farewell, O Mudpit...what we had was good, it really was, but if you're gonna go to water on me, I really need to sink someplace else.

I will never forget you.

Nessie"

Nessie wrote:

Northerner wrote:In this old poll of mine at the "other quicksand forum", 67% out of a total 67 respondents said they preferred humans to mudpits when it comes to sexual outlets.

Thank you for finding that old link.

Humans or mudpits? Mudpits or humans?

I hate to say it...but...I'm the one that wrote that breakup letter to a mudpit.

Haha, Nessie that is so hilarious, definitely worth re-posting. You always contributed a lot of good feedback to a lot of my crazy poll threads on that forum.

Maybe I should post a poll saying "would you like to forego all human contact, and just live in a mud-pit full time?"

No, maybe that would be taking it a bit far.

Northerner wrote:Maybe I should post a poll saying "would you like to forego all human contact, and just live in a mud-pit full time?"

No, maybe that would be taking it a bit far.

9 outta 10 ogres said FUCK YEH!

Northerner wrote:Maybe I should post a poll saying "would you like to forego all human contact, and just live in a mud-pit full time?"

No, maybe that would be taking it a bit far.

Nahh...but...I guess, as far as Quicksand Fans go, it looks like I live there.

Nessie

reisen55 wrote:... That thought bothered me greatly and disburbed me no end...

Look, we're all different. Not just you and me but husbands and wives too. We're not all going to enjoy doing the same thing together all the time. There are things both sexual and otherwise that my wife and I really enjoy together and when we get to share them it's great. I do not expect, nor should you, that your wife would enjoy participating in or even understanding a very personal sexual fetish that you are uniquely wired for. Sex in a married relationship is very important but it won't always be perfect just like anything else. She may not say it but I have no doubt that there are things she might enjoy that you don't derive the same pleasure from either. The important thing is that you are sharing a life together and not just a particular sexual experience.

Don't fret.