What I find exciting about it is the dynamic of my mind saying "No," but my body saying, "Yes." I'm not a particularly kinky gal, but I do enjoy the theme of a little fear or struggle sometimes. There's the physical aspect of it, of course; it feels good on the skin, and I do enjoy things that are slippery or slimy. But as far as the psychological stuff goes, it's a mix of the fear and danger thing with the idea that it's out of our control.
I think many of you are familiar with the intricate dynamics of a relationship where, in the bedroom, taking or losing control can be a powerful element. I think it's a similar feeling with having the quicksand take control, except with mud or quicksand, there's no reasoning, bargaining, or wrestling back control from it. To really be at the mercy of something that's not a conscious thing, and have it be so slow! Falling off a cliff is fighting with nature with the possibility of death, sure, but it's sudden and brutal. And being stuck out in the desert in one hundred twenty degree weather is also fighting with nature with the possibility of death, but rescue might come too late.
With mud and quicksand, though, it's excruciatingly drawn out, inch by inch (quite literally!), and the idea that rescue could be imminent, but until then, you're sinking in perfect health, no harm done if you're saved, but if not, it's to your doom! It's a beautifully ironic combination of "all or nothing" (alive and well all the way down) but having it be so slow and tortuous, knowing that the danger is so close and you're unable to do a thing about it.
Anyway! As far as the practical stuff of getting your significant other interested, I'll give it some thought from our end as far as what methods would probably work better than others. I could use some advice from you guys, too, as far as trying to get my boyfriend into it!
Jen
