Got good news yesterday at the doc

[QuicksandMania]

The young lady I mentioned as "in trouble" last November who had an abortion and swore she would be more careful got pregnant AGAIN earlier this year and is due in December. She was engaged to her boyfriend and they had already made plans with a baby crib and whatever but her conniving grandmother had other plans. Here she is, seven months pregnant, and the grandmother talked her into being whisked from West Virginia to the Mormon homeland, Utah, to stay at an adoption house and put the baby for adoption while cutting the father from the picture completely. She literally disappeared with the clothes on her back and left all other belongings at the boyfriend's home. It took a week for him to decipher what became of her and finally talk to her on the telephone.

TOO. MUCH. DRAMA.

As a psychologist on a philosophy board kindly explained to me yesterday:

"Easier to stuff a wet noodle up a wildcat's ass than push wisdom into a fool."

[Duncan Edwards]

You can't fix stupid.

- Larry the Cable Guy

[Mynock]

There are prospective parents lined up around the proverbial block waiting to adopt healthy newborn infants. If the kid doesn't have any problems it's pretty much guaranteed a home.
BIRTH CONTROL PEOPLE.......Jesus how frigging hard is it to take a pill once a day and put a damn condom on....

[QuicksandMania]

Boyfriend's sister bought him a plane ticket to Utah October 1 where he talked pregnant fiancé into eloping the next business day. This granted him "next of kin" status with much greater legal weight than grandmother as well as father's and spouse's legal rights. Newlyweds have returned to his mother's house in West Virginia where they have been living for the last 18 months. He is still looking for a job and she has been too ill with pregnancy side effects to work and earn an income. Baby is due in early December. Substantial negative cash flow looms on the horizon.

I can applaud any man willing to step to the plate for his woman (especially his baby momma) and be there for her despite some of her craziness. The two evidently love each other in a sort of dysfunctional way so perhaps they can nursemaid each other through their respective difficulties. We live in a world where too many men basically treat their women like toilet paper to be flushed after use. That said, if your partner says he or she wants no children yet refuses to use contraception nor even allows you to use it (as was the case with this young lady who evidently ruled the bedroom with her boyfriend's consent), please, people, show some restraint and good judgment and make the bedroom ICE COLD until sense restores itself to the situation. Staying sober helps tremendously as well.

I am not an "abstinence only" advocate of sex education but my life was a hell of a lot simpler and much more profitable than theirs in my early years thanks to total celibacy and teetotaling. As with drinking, if you intend to copulate, engage responsibly. This is not rocket science. You should monitor your activities against your income statements to evaluate financial risks associated with "worst case scenarios," too.

This whole episode has really bothered me and has taught me not to get too involved in the lives of strangers even when invited. I really thought the parties involved would know better, especially the young lady who showed so much promise as an academically gifted Mormon (?!) college student and sought my input on numerous occasions. She, my former protégé, now hates me for saying just that. Sex can make people crazy, it seems. I also learned that some of the things she told me were actually untrue and that she habitually lies, so she has played numerous people over the years.

I wish them both well in their (unexpected, unplanned, slapdash) new life together.