Got good news yesterday at the doc

[Duncan Edwards]

Mynock, my childhood experience sounds just like that. Mom teaches you how to behave, dad teaches you how to survive. It's not perfect and there are no promises but it generally works well. My own experience as a parent makes me wonder how anyone does it alone. Obviously they do but it's got to be very difficult.

[QuicksandMania]

There is nothing old fashioned or wrong about waiting till your married.

What are the views here about waiting until you marry to engage in the activities that risk conceiving babies in the first place?

[Mynock]

Casual sex is awesome. Just remember there can be consquences and be prepared to deal with them. If a one night stand turned into a positive pregnancey test then depending on what she wanted to do it would be time to trade my 2 door Jeep in for a 4 door.

[julie]

I'd love to be a stay at home mom, but if Me and my boyfriend ever do get married withe th jobs we have right now its gonna take both of us working to make ends meet, he has a 1 bedroom mobile home right now and I still live at home with my parents. I only make 18k a year and he makes 22k a year

[QuicksandMania]

Just a general question:

Is it really that difficult to judge wise intercourse practices when drunk?

I have never been drunk, much less engaged in intercourse under the influence.

A college student of my Internet acquaintance outside this community just had some drama involving alcohol and "forgetting" to use a condom on her boyfriend. This followed by an unwanted positive result on a pregnancy test, a mad scramble to collect $425 for a pharmaceutical abortion with RU-486, and a shaky hour-long trip in a broken-down car to the nearest clinic.

The last time I talked to her, just a few months ago, she was a devout Mormon and anti-choice. That was before the boyfriend. My, how a loss of virginity and a taste of alcohol can change perspectives overnight.

I kindly shared with her the information I shared here about safer ways to do things. She had never even heard of the The Today Sponge until I brought it to her attention. Meh.

I swear I wonder where this world is headed sometimes.

[Nessie]

Is it really that difficult to judge wise intercourse practices when drunk?

Yep.

The problem is not that you suddenly stop knowing that what you're doing is insanely stupid and highly risky. The part that changes is how much you care about it. Then you sober up...and you realize just how dumb that really was.

Alcohol interferes with judgment big-time. It deadens nerve endings too. You can have sex when you're drunk and later on...did it even feel good? You might not be sure how it felt at all.

If you don't drink, you are always in control of your brain. But if, say, you were in a hospital and they gave you anesthesia...you wouldn't expect to just stay awake, would you? In fact, a doctor can remove your appendix while you're out and you won't know it.

Alcohol is a drug. It's not possible to soak your brain cells in the stuff without a loss of some kind.

Nessie

[QuicksandMania]

Alcohol does not, by itself, have much effect on birth control.

As an ex-heavy drinker, though, I can positively tell you that the PROPER APPLICATION of birth control is highly likely to suffer as consumption goes up!

A light to moderate drinker will probably be all right. A couple beers won't cause you to lose much. You'll just feel slighly lightheaded and it may be instrumental in breaking down some inhibitions -- but you really do need to stop after a couple.

Here's the routine for heavy consumption -- this is what you missed by not being a heavy party kind of guy:

After a few beers, the opposite sex looks more wonderful to you than ever. You will then begin to make your moves. The more alcohol you consume, the more you THINK you can do with her, and the more you WANT to do everything in the world to her, but the truth is, the more you drink, the LESS you can actually do with her, and there is less that you WILL do with her with every additional beer.

And the more she drinks with you, the less she can feel anything you're doing to her anyway and the less she cares what it is.

If you're a man, eventually you'll discover that you can't get your condom onto your penis. But by then you're sure you don't need it! God, Fate, and the entire world is on your side! You are drunk! So, you are convinced that you are invincibly lucky!

In the morning, you wake up next to each other with monster headaches and fur growing over your tongues...and neither of you know whether you did anything at all.

There is no way to dummy-proof this process except to go under the knife and get your equipment fixed so it can never do anything...so, for a lifetime of party sex, it's best get this operation while you're sober.

Since all alcohol, in any amount, tends to reduce physical feelings in general, I guarantee you that you got more out of everything you have ever done by not drinking at all.

I shared this quote from February 12 of this thread with the young lady in question this morning (generically as "quoted from a woman" and without overt reference to this site or Nessie specifically) in hopes that some of it "sinks in" (no pun intended).

[Nessie]

I shared this quote from February 12 of this thread with the young lady in question this morning (generically as "quoted from a woman" and without overt reference to this site or Nessie specifically) in hopes that some of it "sinks in" (no pun intended).

I do indeed speak from experience.

It is very old experience. It comes from my young-and-wild party days. But human anatomy should be the same. Evolution takes much longer than 28 years.

You can even still buy the whiskey. Seagram's, to be exact. Mixed with 7-up. 'Till you get drunk, that is, and you snarf it right from the bottle.

Nessie

[Duncan Edwards]

I'm 49 and haven't had my first drink, smoke, toke, whatever. I was however an early, and eager, participant in other sins of the flesh. During the summer after my freshman year of college I attended a party where a lady I had been friends with had too much to drink and gave me an opportunity for playtime together. Being completely sober and protected I took advantage of the situation but her performance was so stunted by alcohol that it was probably the closest I've ever come to not enjoying myself. Even worse was a day later when she had no real recollection of the event and expressed gratitude that it was me and not somebody worse. (Thanks...I think) Nothing against anyone who wants to lower their inhibitions or warm things up a bit but a really drunk partner is indeed no fun. Looking back she really was lucky it was me. I don't understand how a really drunk couple even manages anything.

[dlodoski]

...You can even still buy the whiskey. Seagram's, to be exact. Mixed with 7-up. 'Till you get drunk, that is, and you snarf it right from the bottle....

Ah, 7 and 7's. Done that.

It was the only time I chucked in the snow - standing up no less.