The absurdity of looking for a girl who is 'into this'

[PINK PONY]

The sheer statistical absurdity - according to available information on the nature and prevalence of fetishes, the evidence seems to suggest that, in the general way of things, it is a neuro-biological phenomon that is predominately specific to male brain architecture (which isn't to say that women can't or don't have fetishes, but that the numbers are comparitively rare). When you couple that with the rarity of out shared persuasion, the odds of finding a girl who is not geographically displaced by hundreds of miles and has a genuine, independent interest in playing in mud start to look rather bleak.

So, what's a guy like one of us to do, then? Well, I have to tip my hat to DaBestNoobEver and [blog author redacted] for figuring this out, but do not despair or abandon hope. The good news is that there are local women everywhere that would happily join you in actively participating in mud fetishism, providing they are sufficiently into you. Perhaps even if they are naturally averse to the idea. It might be a politically incorrect or controversial statement to suggest that a woman in love will do just about anything to please the man to whom her affections are devoted, but consilience strongly indicates that this is very much the case.

I don't know, maybe I'm a bit slow and everybody else here already had this figured out?

Anyways, here's a handy guide to persuading women to join you in mud:


Step 1. If necessary, increase your relative SMV to increase potential dating opportunities. This may require work and time (and by the way, I include myself in this)

Step 2. Attract a woman who is very interested (ideally besotted or infatuated, having a crush on you, etc)

Step 3. Enter into a relationshion of some description

Step 4. Holding a disproportinate balance of power, confidently broach the subject after an appropriate amount of time has passed.

Step 5. Gloriously get all your needs met


In summary: forget about the idea of meeting a girl on this forum to join you in mud (unless you are very lucky indeed)

[Nessie]

It might be a politically incorrect or controversial statement to suggest that a woman in love will do just about anything to please the man to whom her affections are devoted, but consilience strongly indicates that this is very much the case

It is not a positive comment on my gender, but there is truth in this. I have, sadly, watched this happen in the quicksand community a few times over the years.

Beware. A crush isn't love. Infatuation isn't love. Dare I say it? Sex itself is not love...not even if it's sex in quicksand.

It's all just a bunch of hormones running amok.

It is, scientifically speaking, difficult for a person of either gender to keep the infatuation-hormone thing going forever. As a hot-blooded youth, I couldn't even stay madly in love with Alice Cooper for more than three years.

When the hormones die off...and she figures it all out...things won't be looking so pretty any more.

Nessie

[Duncan Edwards]

A relationship for life is much deeper than a sexual fetish interest. A little playtime with somebody you really enjoy being with is different. That should be obvious but I was 25 years into my marriage before I really figured it out. Anybody here needs to make sure they understand which they are looking for.

[Chimerix]

As a hot-blooded youth, I couldn't even stay madly in love with Alice Cooper for more than three years.

Seriously? He's STILL on my "to do" list!

[Nessie]

As a hot-blooded youth, I couldn't even stay madly in love with Alice Cooper for more than three years.

Seriously? He's STILL on my "to do" list!

Yeah...seriously.

Just one year into our long-distance love affair, I found out that Alice was shacking up with a fashion model. And I was soooo mad.

But a few years later they broke up and he married a dancer. And I said to myself, "That's great news. He deserves a nice wife." And that was my tipoff...the madness of hormones had receded. I now loved his mind, his character, and his talent...Alice had morphed into my dear friend.

Nessie

[MadMax359]

and now he's a golfer, how middle aged is that?

[mudxdresser]

The odds are better than you think of finding a compatible female mud partner, but she will not be a mud fetishist in all likelihood. Rather, she will be one of about half of all femaies who are turned on by being covered in some sort of slippery substance or similar, she will be into it for the sensuality of it. Once this difference is understood, you'll understand how to approach doing mud with a female in a way that will appeal to her interests as well. Just keep in mind that the odds are in your favor if you'll keep trying.

[Nessie]

The odds are better than you think of finding a compatible female mud partner, but she will not be a mud fetishist in all likelihood.

This is true...because of the skewed proportion of male to female, it is how it mostly has to go.

Ironically, the first person to respond to this post -- me -- actually IS a female fetishist with a long history. In my day, I had a good number of actual mud partners. And, believe it or not, nobody lied their way into anything. Boundaries were set...wherever they had to be set...and that was the end of it.

Truth and respect will get you everywhere.

Here is a gentle reminder of what happens when infatuation ends, cold turkey.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9D3n5QM104&list=PL7bCv2WuVwPQ-gq_KMnrLuVjjjUE_EYVt

Nessie

[Nessie]

and now he's a golfer, how middle aged is that?

Yeah, I know! I can't think of anything more boring!

You know, though, I had to learn to just give him space to be who he is.

Nessie

[Duncan Edwards]

and now he's a golfer, how middle aged is that?

Yeah, I know! I can't think of anything more boring!

You know, though, I had to learn to just give him space to be who he is.

Nessie

He's a golfer who hangs out in Nashville and goes to Church on Sunday mornings.